But you see, in the end it would not really matter how long it took you to improve your self confidence. What matters more is that you have atleast removed yourself from the old ways that you have learned to embrace. The only place from which we may start is within ourselves. For long, we fed ourselves with impressions coming from the people we are interacting with. How the Inner Critic Affects Your Self Confidence It is strange how many of us fail to listen to that tiny voice inside ourselves. There is no biological and scientific explanations to this ever present voice but you see, we all hear them. For some the voice is the all-commanding mentor. It is sad though that for some, this little voice has become their inner critic, or worse has for a long time muted. We don't always want the responsibility of being the top dog. However, we all need recognition and as such, we have to develop our physical presence, both for self realization and for other people's appreciation. A good physical presence would help us communicate our dominance or at least our value in a circle of people. Nevertheless, it is no big deal if you would hide your activity of growth or not. Unless you live in a solitary cave somewhere, people would realize that you are up with something. A good way to gain self confidence also lies in your goal setting. People tend to set higher goals than what they can truly achieve. We may see that men were not created equal but there surely must be a universal stuff that balances all things. We are all capable of being self confident. It not a thing that we can touch nor see. It not something that was given to the person sitting next to you while you may not share the blessings it might result to. It goes without saying that those confident individuals can bear themselves better than those who have lower sense of the "self". They are the achievers, the people of the limelight, the center of the society. They walk straight, speak their meanings very well and influence people, both subtly and obviously.