The difference though lies in our personal treatments of the capabilities that we were endowed with. Initial development of self confidence roots from our childhood, the fashion by which we were reared, the opportunities that honed us to be the persons that we are and our reactions to the challenges that were given to us. Don't be harsh with yourself. Of course you are in equal footing with the person standing next to you. If he has the confidence you admire and you loath for not having the same confidence then don't get caught with the idea that you can't be like him. In fact, if you just set your mind to gaining confidence then you are sure to be like him someday. These are subtle triggering instances that would all contribute to your eventual loss of self confidence. Because of such poor models and lack of attention given on you, you would soon find that you are really incapable of doing things when in fact you have gifts beyond your own reckoning. Your belief on their beliefs would then send you blaming yourselves for all your failures. People are subject to committing mistakes, you must understand that. And your failures must not be made an excuse to stop trying. Think of your losses as blessings that you must accept and be thankful that they come across your path. This is one proof that the Creator spends more time on you than you would have first imagined. Many of us think that the man we are looking up to shared much of life's blessings because he can bear himself better, he can face the public better and he is much eloquent and more confident than most of us. Remember that before he even got there, he ahs to face challenges that contributed to his self-esteem and self confidence. It is an innate murmuring voice that we hear. If we would all remember, this tiny voice has been with us throughout our lives, guiding us to make the proper decisions. But during the course of life, when we have become too jaded and have forgotten the beliefs we once had, this voice becomes silent that we no can no longer remember how good it feels to listen to its guidance.