Normally when we set out to do something we tend to over calculate things and plan to achieve things beyond our present reach. This, we say, would encourage us to work double time. But the point we are missing is that once we fail our expectations and the expectations of the crowd that is watching us, we will be discouraged to try things again. And at times, you would even convince yourself that you are also responsible for the failures of those people you have close contact with. As a child, sweeping statements will be a commonplace for you. You will convince yourself of how stupid you are even without the reinforcement that comes from the warped people surrounding you. Advice to a Parent Who is Planning tp Build Self Confidence in Her Child For long, man has searched for the most perfect environment by which he must immerse children into. The main aim of which is to raise ideal children that are whole heartedly devoted to the purity of their being and in the service of Him who Created all things. Experiences, as we know them, are among the great teachers we have. Failure to take advantage of the experiences we encounter will only send us back to the same circumstances until we are able to spot where we have gone wrong. Therefore, we have no excuse that we were not given the chance to improve with each experience. It was intended to help us but our negative thoughts turn that voice into an inner critic. This inner critic is the nagging voice that tells you how deficient you are, how ugly you are, how weak and useless you are and how people dislike you for who and what you are. It will convince you to believe in all these lies until your self confidence is sapped and your sense of self becomes devoid. Wasting your life to senseless whimpers of negativism would obviously cause you to regret everything at the every moment you depart. How painful it would be to know that you were equipped with everything you need to achieve but dared not use them. There was once a young eagle who happened to be raised in village of chickens.