In fact, they affirm that sufferers from this condition must not be praised everytime simply because they cannot easily accept compliments. This is the same with arguing with people who are so sure of themselves. Unconfident people may not be sure at many things yet their belief does not falter when it comes to their capacities. In fact, there are so many cases when their bests may have been a mediocre standard for others and in some cases, their best is no good at all. Nonetheless, they still perform them because they know nothing better. No one could be blamed though. We were all brought up depending on the present means that were available at the moment of our growth. It is like tearing the walls that we have built for long in exchange for a few unjust remarks that we rarely need. Avoid using sweeping statements about yourself because these are the very things that would eventually strip you off your good self image. Recreating the comments you give to yourself will have a huge impact on your self confidence. We have to start early in building our foundations so that we wont have to loose precious moments that shall never pass by us again. A moment that's gone is gone forever but your light won't even lose its value long after you have gone. With optimism in life we would be able to recognize the fullness of our potentials. Here are some guidelines that you can follow to lead you in gaining your self confidence: If your past bothers you and you think that it has greatly affected the level of your self confidence (which is by the way a solid truth) then just remember one thing- anyone can begin something at any given moment of his life. Thus, if we make them believe that they are not good and they cant do anything well then expect a pessimistic child. However, if at a very early stage we have made that child believe on his attributes and on what he is capable of doing, then the child we are looking at is someone who is ready to achieve, to sail on and to take life in its smooth handle.