Women's self defense begins at home. Criminal statistics indicate that each day four women are murdered, not by random acts of violence, but rather homicides perpetrated by intimate partners. For this reason, women need to be skilled in the art of women's self defense. One should never be at the mercy of anyone, let alone a loved one. Using all of your force, this will cause extreme pain or dislocation. If possible and you can do it with safety, kick your opponent in the testicles. This is extreme pain for a man and can take him out of commission for several minutes. If you miss the first time kick him again and then run. Remember that women's self defense wants you to remember that you are not trying to win a fight but to disable or distract you opponent long enough to get away. The attacker wants to do what he plans to do without being noticed or drawing attention. The interloper will do anything to keep his crime a secret and will wait until you are out of eye sight or out of ear shot of the general public before he will perpetrate his crime. If you make noise to attract the attention of other people, most attackers will resist the urge to continue the assault once started. Instead of allowing the unknown individual to come to one's home, a single woman, or even an woman living with other women, should meet the date at a mutually agreed upon location. This meeting place should be very visible and public, thus leaving no opportunity for a would-be attacker to gain an unacceptable advantage. This is true, but you shouldn't have to not wear what you want to because you are afraid of being raped. Use common sense and awareness. If you want to wear a short skirt or low cut blouse to a cocktail party or a nightclub, wear it. Just be aware of where you are and where you will have to go when you want to go home. You wait until he leaves before you go out to the car or leave work missing hours as you race to the vehicle to avoid him. You may even take the stairs instead of the elevator just to avoid this harasser. It is not fair for you to adjust your life to avoid something that is wrongly being done to you.