But the point we are missing is that once we fail our expectations and the expectations of the crowd that is watching us, we will be discouraged to try things again. You see, on our initial tries it is not bad if we would set achievable goals rather than confidence boosting-unrealistic goals that would leave us dismayed. If you can redirect your focus on your attributes that will help you build yourself confidence then by all means do. Sometimes, even when people are around to help us, it is only we that we can actually raise ourselves back. Life changing routes usually happen when we pass by a path and find that path to be the right way for us. It is when our minds are most absorbent to knowledge and learning. Yet it is also when our minds are most susceptible to damages of negative inputs. What we experienced during childhood will be carried over through the rest of our lives. Though the effects vary largely, at times these may be subtly felt and at times, we feel like our reactions to stimuli are commanded by our perception of things. Others, on the other hand, lean more on playing safe and thus create more achievable goals that are easier to attain. And because achievements add largely to the development of self confidence, these people benefit from knowing that they are somehow capable of doing something. You may already have heard the phrase- "its all in the mind". This also includes our talents, skills, weaknesses, fortes and anything and everything in between. After knowing all these things, you need to accept that these are facts and love yourself and your imperfections. Keep in mind that no one is ever perfect however he wanted to be. So there is no sense for you to be harsh on yourself over a few flaws that everyone else has. Advice to a Parent Who is Planning tp Build Self Confidence in Her Child For long, man has searched for the most perfect environment by which he must immerse children into. The main aim of which is to raise ideal children that are whole heartedly devoted to the purity of their being and in the service of Him who Created all things.