You have never been to a traditional women's self-defense course and you really do not know what to do. You could scream, but who would hear you. There is no one around. You could run but you are in heels and he is close enough where you would never get away. Your body, your belongings, your life is on the line. The classes will help build back the feelings that she can defend her and that she can go out alone with a toolbox of techniques and tactics that will keep her safe. The significant other can supply more emotional support in the way of letting the woman choose where and where she is not comfortable. Later in the healing process, you might want to escort the victim to the site of the attack. Women's self defense classes are now training women how to recognize potential red flags which may lead them to be sexually assaulted. The woman needs to understand what rape means so that the can recognize the warning signs. A rape is a sexual assault against a woman's will and without her consent. The victim does not have to be threatened with a weapon or physically restrained. The reflex is called a pain withdrawal reflex and it will move in the exact opposite direction that the pressure is being applied. Women's self defense instructors will teach that when you jab a person in the stomach slightly below the chest bone, the attacker will back away quickly or try to turn his or her body away to get away from the pain. This meeting place should be very visible and public, thus leaving no opportunity for a would-be attacker to gain an unacceptable advantage. This method has additional advantages for personal safety because meeting the date, as opposed to being given a ride, allows one to have access to their own transportation, and are not left at the mercy of potentially dangerous suitors. They will either go after a woman in a pig tail or a braid that can be easily grabbed to hold the woman down or to direct her head. They are more likely to go after long hair than a woman in short hair. The long hair is easier to grab and use to cause pain and to direct the rest of the woman's body where the assailant wants it to go.